After that, I went back to the same area for weekly visits with the team. We tried to say hi to the same women at least once a month, and we organized special events every quarter and a spring outing with good food and games every year. I witnessed so many women, one after another – including Xin Xin! – coming out to join Starfish Project, and then friends going back and bringing more friends to come.

Working at Starfish – never a dull moment.

The transition from mainly focusing on outreach to providing one-on-one counseling was not something I expected. However, over the years of working with the survivors, I have learned more about trauma – how valuable it is to intentionally journey with them, and to create a safe space for them to have deep and meaningful conversations.

I got the chance to hear numerous stories from the survivors. I was able to bear the burden as they shared their trauma history as I walked the journey of integration and recovery with them. Many times, there were tears, but also laughter. I sometimes joke with them that my job is to be the ‘Kleenex dispenser.’ Each survivor is unique, but every story shows incredible courage. To protect their privacy, I am unable to share specific stories, but I can tell you my response each time – ‘I am amazed that you are alive today. You are a miracle.’